No one can be just like someone else. You are unique just the way we are. If you want to become the best version of yourself you have to look at your Habits and decide which ones are serving you and which ones need to be improved or replaced.
Habits are what push us forward in this life. We are either moving forward or we are falling backward, but none of us are staying the same.
Habits occur in three layers of change.
The second layer changing the process – What you do in order to develop the habit. The habit itself and how you perform it.
The third layer is changing your Identity – This is changing the actual beliefs you have about yourself.
“This level is concerned with changing your beliefs: your world view, your self-image, your judgments about yourself and others. Most of the beliefs, assumptions, and biases you hold.”
Let me give you an example from my own life. I have been heavy since I was in middle school. I don’t remember being overweight until puberty, but when I started gaining weight, it felt like I never stopped. So my entire adult life I have struggled with my weight. I have lost and gained weight forever.
So I have defined myself as a person who is an emotional eater. I adapt the habits of healthy people for a month or two, but because I have never seen myself as healthy, but emotional eater I am never able to keep the weight off for long periods.
Lately, I have been trying to make this change again. I have been adapting small habit changes like replacing candy bars with protein bars. I have been doing this for the last 30 days. In May I am adding in 20 minutes of exercise each morning. Just getting up and moving.
In reading this and applying it, I have realized that if I learn to ask myself, “What would a healthy person eat or do?” then make small choices in that direction each day. I begin to change my identity from a person who struggles with my health and eating habits. To a healthy person that makes good food choices and habits then the outcome is that I would be healthier, which is the goal.
Too many people will set a goal and then put a process in place, but when it comes right down to it, they are not able to accomplish that goal because they haven’t change the identity of who they want to become.
“Behavior that is incongruent with the self will not last. You may want more money, but if your identity is some who consumes rather than creates, then you’ll continue to be pulled toward spending rather than earning.”
This process is when done in small increments is life changing. James Clear talks about the power of 1% change done consistently will result in compound results. If you allow yourself to fall back just a little each day, you will find that you will have considerable gaps in what you want to accomplish.
Making healthy choices with my food and adding exercise will begin to change who I see myself as being. When I see my self as a person who can make healthy choices and healthy, then I can start the change that I want for myself.
So identifying who you want to be in your life and then changing your identity to get there is the key to making Habits work for you and not against you. That is why it is so essential to create a profile of the person that you want to be. Then put the habits in place that help you become that person.
Read more about the process of changing Habits in Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones, this breakthrough book from James Clear is the most comprehensive guide on how to change your habits and get 1% better every day. Click here to get a copy or download it on your Audible Account today.
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